Do you know what I'm tired of as a bride-to-be? More than writing invitations, dealing with overpriced jacked up vendors, family dramas, seating charts, more than ALL of that?
The constant reminder that I am too fat to be a beautiful bride.
I am not going to sugar coat this, I am pissed off. I am SO tired of being reminded that in order to be good enough I need to be a certain size. I am tired of wedding dresses being sized too small so that when you're a size 8, your wedding dress is a size 12. I am tired of the bridal industry and the dieting industry partnering up to badger vulnerable brides into thinking that they can never be perfect enough for their big day.
Without naming who, I have several people close to me reminding that maybe I should opt for salad instead of pasta since "I have a wedding coming up soon".
I am 5'7, I am 165 pounds. This is the largest I have ever been and obviously I don't feel great about it. I have pressure from everywhere to lose weight. If I fail, I will apparently regret it forever. Don't you know that you only get one wedding and therefore only one day to look perfect? Don't you know that the camera adds 10 pounds?
I am just really tired of the fat-shaming. When I tried on my wedding dress the lady at the store told me "I just need a good pair of spanx"... Last time I tried my dress on in front of someone they said "you just need to lose 5 pounds."
This shit is constantly being advertised to me all over the internet...every day.
It is disgusting and it needs to stop. I know perfect is a a made up myth from he media. I know that the brides in magazines are airbrushed and it's an unrealistic goal to look like a mannequin in a dress. I am too smart and I respect myself too much to let this control how I feel about myself.
I'm just over it.
xo Breton
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